After going out every weekend, mingling, and meeting new people, you’ve finally met someone great—and they’ve even asked you out on a date. At this point, you’re pretty excited about it. I mean, why wouldn’t you be?
Tomorrow is the night, and you start getting anxious. Don’t panic! We’re here for you and we’ll be there for you every step of the way. With this explainer, we will help you turn the first date into the second date, then the third—you get the point. After you’re done reading this article, you won’t need our help anymore. It might be scary at first—but it’s time to venture out on you own. We believe in you.
Make sure you’re well-groomed.
Men, make sure you get a haircut before the date. A fresh trim will always look impressive—and it shows that you’ve put in the effort to look your best. First impressions always matter on a date, regardless if you have met them before or not.
Ladies, the same goes for you too. You might not want to cut your hair, but at least make sure it’s neat and well-styled. The main goal here is to not look like you’ve just binge-watched your favourite series on Netflix for 12 hours.
Most importantly, don’t forget to shave. If you have a beard, either get rid of it or make sure its trimmed and neat. It’s not a nice look when you and your date are sitting down at a nice restaurant, and food is clinging to your facial hair. If you’re wearing a dress, make sure you shave your legs. You guys don’t need me to say this, but unfortunately hairy legs are not a good look.
I know we’re asking a lot from you, but the sad reality is that the first date is based on your attraction to each other. Getting to know each other personally comes after.
Make an itinerary.
If you’re the one planning the date, be organized and do your research.
If you’re taking your date to a restaurant, make sure you book a table. There is nothing more embarrassing than turning up to a restaurant and then get sent away by the host because “You should have booked beforehand.” Not booking a table in advance shows that you didn’t put much thought into the date—which is a major turn-off. After all, it’s so easy to pick up the phone and book a table.
You can even book through the restaurants website or even from external sites, such as Opentable.
We all know you have one favourite outfit in your wardrobe—you know the one. The head turning, jaw-dropping, show stopping outfit you know you look amazing in. I know a particular outfit just popped into your head. Well, that’s the one you’re going to wear on your date.
Always make an effort with shoes as well. My mum always says, “people judge you with what shoes you wear,’ and that’s great advice to live by. When you look good, you feel good. After all, confidence is attractive.
Have a 'Get-out' plan, if needed.
Okay, this one is a little harsh. Sometimes the dates that you go on may resemble a plane slowly plummeting to the ground. For whatever reason, if your date has gone horribly wrong, you will need a get out plan.
Don’t put yourself through the torture of spending another hour with someone you’ve come to dislike. Have a friend who you can message, and ask them to ring you with a reason to leave—an emergency usually does the trick.
In the past, I’ve used the ‘someone has called in sick at work and I have to go in’ excuse. (I used to work in a bar, so it came in handy). Think of the excuse beforehand so that it doesn’t look like you’re lying.
Get your toilet needs out of the way.
Yes, this one is a little bit gross, but get all your needs out of the way beforehand. It’s okay to go for a number one—but I’m talking about number two. You don’t want to keep your date waiting at the table for too long!
Okay, that was everything you needed to know to help you prepare for the date. Now, here is some advice on what to do whilst you’re on the date.
Don't talk about your ex.
If you’re not over your ex, then do not go on a date with someone else. If you are, then for whatever reason do not spend hours talking about your ex. Don’t talk about what they looked like, what they did, or what you hate about them. Just don’t talk about them.
Don't talk about anything inappropriate.
Remember that you’re getting to know this person and you want them to like you.
If you’re familiar with the show ‘First Dates,’ then you will know that there is always someone on every episode who decides to say something outrageous. It could be something from, ‘I had a threesome the other day,’ to ‘I have a porn addiction.’ Just don’t share too much information about topics that they don’t need to know about. They can find out about that stuff later.
Don't talk about yourself too much.
This is another big issue which occurs on a lot of first dates—and is most likely the reason there’s never a second or third.
If the only voice you’re hearing all evening is the sound of yours, then something is wrong. Make sure you ask questions about them. After all, you want to show them you’re interested in getting to know them. Do not tell them your life story unless they ask.
But, most importantly… listen and engage.
Listen to what the other person is saying—and actually listen. Do not be distracted on what’s going on around you and definitely do not check out the people near you either. That’s another big no no.
If you are following this explainer, then you have nothing to worry about. Take it easy and above all, don’t forget to have fun. Dating is meant to be just that… fun!!!